I hope that you will shed some light on the Islamic view on a woman going back to her mother during this period. Is it essential that her husband agree with that? May Allah reward you with good.
Praise be to Allaah.
The basic principle with regard to women is that when a woman
gets married she should stay in her husband's house. Allah, may He be
exalted, says, commanding the wives of His Prophet (blessings and peace of
Allah be upon him), who are the best example for all women (interpretation
of the meaning): “And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves
like that of the times of ignorance” [al-Ahzaab 33:33].
Al-Qurtubi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
The meaning of this verse is the command to stay in the
house. Although it is addressed to the wives of the Prophet (blessings and
peace of Allah be upon him), other women are also included, even if there
were no specific evidence to include all other women. So how about when
sharee‘ah is filled with evidence that women should stay in their houses and
avoid going out except when necessary, according to what we have stated
above in more than one place.
End quote from Tafseer al-Qurtubi (14/179)
Ibn Qudaamah (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
The house or home may be ascribed to the one who lives there
as it may also be ascribed to the one who owns it. Allah, may He be exalted,
says (interpretation of the meaning): “And turn them not out of their
homes” [al-Talaaq 65:1], i.e., the houses of their husbands in which
they live. And Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the
meaning): “And stay in your houses” [al-Ahzaab 33:33].
What usually happens, of a woman going to her family's house
at the beginning of the postpartum period, is something that is acceptable
according to sharee‘ah. There is no doubt that at the beginning of the
postpartum period, a woman cannot look after herself properly, let alone
look after her husband and take care of her house.
But this should be done with her husband's approval and
permission to leave and go to her family's house. If the husband does not
give permission, or she knows that he will be upset by that, then she does
not have the right to leave without his permission. In return, he does not
have the right to overburden her with tasks that are too difficult for her
during this period. Rather he has to call her family to come to his house to
look after their daughter, if that is possible, or he should bring someone
from his family or someone else, even if he has to pay for that, to look
after her and take care of her. If that is not possible, he has to help her
himself and make up for what she is missing out on of comfort and care from
her own family.
If the husband gives her permission to go to her family’s
house, as husbands usually do, then the wife has to pay attention to her
husband’s rights over her. So she should not stay in her family's house
unnecessarily, and she does not have the right to stay there for the entire
postpartum period, unless her husband agrees to that. It is well known that
many husbands cannot be apart from their wives for this entire period;
rather the husband needs her, as any husband needss his wife; even though it
is not permissible for him to have intercourse with her during this period,
he can still enjoy her in ways other than intercourse.
It is also well known that the woman can look after herself
and carry out some of her household duties before the end of the postpartum
period. This varies according to the woman’s state of health and the type of
birth she had.
To sum up:
If the wife goes to her family's home, there is nothing wrong
with that, especially if there is a need for it. But she has to ask for her
husband's permission, and if he gives permission, she should not stay away
from her house any longer than the length of time for which he gave
permission. She also has to pay attention to his rights and his need for
And Allah knows best.