Praise be to Allaah.
The one who is observing a
voluntary fast has the choice: he may complete the fast or he may break it,
but completing it is better.
Ahmad (26535) narrated from
Umm Haani’ (may Allaah be pleased with her) that the Messenger of Allaah
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) entered upon her. He called
for a drink and drank some, then he passed it to her and she drank some. She
said: O Messenger of Allaah, I was fasting. The Messenger of Allaah
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The one who is observing
a voluntary fast has the choice; if he wishes he may fast and if he wishes
he may break the fast.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh
See also the answer to
question no. 49610.
If a person fasts one of
the six days of Shawwaal, and he wants to break the fast, he may do so,
whether he does it by eating, having intercourse, or anything else.
If this woman fasted
without her husband’s permission, then he may call her to his bed, and she
has to respond.
But if she was fasting with
his permission, then he does not have the right to spoil her fast, but if he
wants that then it is better for her to respond to him.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may
Allaah have mercy on him) said: If she observes a naafil fast with his
permission, then it is not permissible for him to spoil her fast, because he
gave her permission. But in that case if she is observing a naafil fast with
his permission and he wants her to come to his bed, is it better for her to
continue fasting and refuse her husband’s request? The other option is
better, which is responding to her husband’s request, because responding to
her husband’s request is basically obligatory, and the voluntary fast is
mustahabb, and because if she refuses even though his desire is strong, then
he may feel some resentment towards her and the relationship between them
may be affected as a result of that.
Majmoo’ Fataawa Ibn