Thursday, 28 April 2011

She advised him and he came to thank her, and they committed zina


I am a young woman from a very well-known family. All my life I have been religiously committed and of good character, as all will attest, but I do not know what is the reason that caused me to get to know a young man. I wanted to help him because he had suffered the calamity of his father’s death, and he is responsible for his siblings and his mother, but he went down the path of keeping company with bad people. I advised him and I felt it was my duty to stand beside him and advise him sincerely. Eventually he returned to his studies and gave up those bad friends, and he changed completely. His mother asked him the reason, and he told her. She spoke to me and thanked me for being patient with her son. One day he came for a visit to see me, and I did not know why I did not hesitate. I went to see him, and I felt as if he was my brother. We spent some time together and what happened happened, unfortunately. Now he wants to come and propose marriage to me, but it is impossible. He is three years younger than me, and he is not of the same nationality as me. Now I am pregnant and I want Allaah to conceal my sin and I want to repent. I know that I have done wrong, and you will criticize me severely, but I want to repent and I want a solution.

Praise be to Allaah.


Perhaps your letter will be a lesson to those who claim that
a relationship between a man and a non-mahram woman can be “innocent”, and
to those who claim that such relationships are Islamically acceptable if
they are for the purpose of giving advice, and to those who want to “water
down” the religion to allow relationships between men and women in the name
of modernity, and claim that there is no reason why this should not be done,
and that woman are able to control themselves… and other such foolish

It is a lesson for all those who are heedless of the laws of
Allaah and pay no attention to the warning of our Lord, may He blessed and
exalted, against following in the footsteps of the shaytaan, and they
continue to take these matters lightly until they find themselves in deep
trouble. You were heedless with regard to this young man and you went ahead
and spoke with him and advised him, then you agreed to receive him in your
house, then you agreed to be alone with him, then the Shaytaan made
attractive to you the idea that he was like your brother, then what? Then
you committed zina in the same meeting and in your house, with one whom the
shaytaan made you think was like your brother! Which was the first step of
the shaytaan? It was speaking to this non-mahram man, then the other steps
of the shaytaan came one after another until you committed this most
abhorrent of sins. Hence we can see the wisdom in the words of Allaah, may
He be exalted (interpretation of the meaning): 

“And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a
Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits: a great sin), and an
evil way (that leads one to hell unless Allaah Forgives him)”

[al-Isra’ 17:32] 

Allaah did not only
forbid zina itself, rather He forbade coming near to it. The aim here is to
forbid the things that lead to it. We ask Allaah to conceal your sin and to
forgive you, and to help you to repent sincerely. 


There is no doubt that zina is a grave sin, and it is one of
the major sins. Hence the punishment for it is one that points to the
seriousness of this sin and the abhorrence with which it is regarded in
sharee’ah and by wisdom and common sense. 

Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 

Allaah ordained punishment for zina that differs from the
punishment for other crimes in three ways: 

1 – Execution in the most unpleasant form; when the
punishment is reduced, it still combines the physical punishment of flogging
with the emotional punishment of banishment. 

2 – He forbade people when carrying out the punishment on the
adulterers, to feel pity for them that would prevent them from carrying out
the punishment. By His mercy towards them He prescribed this punishment, and
He is more merciful to them than you, but His mercy did not prevent Him from
ordaining this punishment, so your pity should not prevent you from carrying
out His command… 

3 – He enjoined that
their punishment be carried out in the presence of some of the believers; it
should not be done in isolation where no one can see them. That is more
effective in serving the purpose of the punishment, and serves as a
deterrent. End quote. 

Al-Jawaab al-Kaafi, p. 144, 115 


Although this sin is so serious and abhorrent, Allaah has
opened the door of repentance to those who commit it, and He has promised
that if they are sincere in their repentance, He will turn their bad deeds
into good deeds.  

Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him)
was asked: 

What should the person who has committed zina do in order to
rid himself of the effects of that action of his? 

He replied: 

Zina is one of the most serious of haraam actions and the
worst of major sins. Allaah warns the mushrikeen, murderers and adulterers
of multiple punishments on the Day of Resurrection, and of eternal
humiliation and torment, because of the seriousness and abhorrence of their
crimes, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“And those who invoke not any other ilaah (god) along with
Allaah, nor kill such person as Allaah has forbidden, except for just cause,
nor commit illegal sexual intercourse —
and whoever does this shall receive the punishment.

69. The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of
Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace;

70. Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic
Monotheism), and do righteous deeds”

[al-Furqaan 25:68-70] 

The one who has fallen
into such sin has to repent to Allaah sincerely, and follow that with
sincere belief and righteous deeds. Repentance is sincere if the penitent
gives up the sin, regrets what has happened in the past and resolves never
to go back to it, out of fear of Allaah and awe of Him, hoping for His
reward and fearing His punishment. Allaah says (interpretation of the

“And verily, I am indeed forgiving to him who repents,
believes (in My Oneness, and associates none in worship with Me) and does
righteous good deeds, and then remains constant in doing them (till his

[Ta-Ha 20:82] 

Every Muslim man and
Muslim woman must beware of this great evil and the things that lead to it,
and hasten to repent from whatever is already past. Allaah will accept the
repentance of those who are sincere and forgive them. 

Majmoo’ Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn Baaz,


It is not permissible for two people who have committed zina
to get married except after having repented sincerely, because Allaah has
forbidden that to the believers: 

“The adulterer —
fornicator marries not but an adulteress — fornicatress or a Mushrikah; and
the adulteress –fornicatress, none marries her except an adulterer —
fornicater or a Mushrik [and that means that the man who agrees to marry
(have a sexual relation with) a Mushrikah (female polytheist, pagan or
idolatress) or a prostitute, then surely, he is either an adulterer —
fornicator, or a Mushrik (polytheist, pagan or idolater). And the woman who
agrees to marry (have a sexual relation with) a Mushrik (polytheist, pagan
or idolater) or an adulterer — fornicator, then she is either a prostitute
or a Mushrikah (female polytheist, pagan, or idolatress)]. Such a thing is
forbidden to the believers (of Islamic Monotheism)”

[al-Noor 24:3] 

We have already explained the ruling on this issue in the
answer to questions no. 14381,


If the soul has been breathed into the foetus, then aborting
it would be another crime in addition to zina. We have explained the ruling
on this issue in the answer to questions no.
11195 and


The solution to your problem is to inform wise people among
your family about your situation. The one who transgresses the laws of
Allaah must inevitably face the consequences of his sin, in many cases. The
family has to stand with their daughter sooner rather than later. Even if
she aborts the foetus before the soul has been breathed into it, she is no
longer regarded as a virgin, and this will also cause some problems at the
time of marriage. Whatever the case, they have to solve their daughter’s
problem, for she has repented and regretted her sin, and “the one who
repents from sin is like one who has not sinned at all” – narrated by Ibn
Maajah, 4250; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb,
3145. Even if she does not commit any sin after she repents, her sin has
serious repercussions which must be dealt with before news of it becomes
widespread and affects the family as a whole. The solution is not to marry
her to that zaani before he repents, because marriage to a zaani is haraam,
as stated above. But if they both repent, there is nothing wrong with them
getting married in sha Allaah. 

It is not permissible for her to marry anyone else until her
womb is emptied, which is when she gives birth. The evidence for that is the
report narrated by Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri (may Allaah be pleased with him)
from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), who said:
“Do not have intercourse with a pregnant woman until she gives birth, or
with one who is not pregnant until she has menstruated once.” Narrated by
Abu Dawood, 2157. al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar said in al-Talkhees al-Habeer
(1/171,172): Its isnaad is hasan. 

In order to understand the greatness of Allaah’s bounty in
accepting His slaves’ repentance and to know that He accepts the repentance
of the penitent no matter how great and how many their sins

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