I travel everyday for about 122km to go to work, but during ramadhan i'm staying at the city where i work from monday to friday, i dont get to see my family the whole week. Can i normally fast on journey coz its not as hard as during those days, will my fast be valied? What if i take off the last 10days and do itikaaf at the same city or do i do itikaf with my family which i dont get to spend so much time with them? Also helping my wife with house work because she gets so tired and she cant do so much of ibadah. Should i do itikaf or spend time with my family and do ibadah together?please advice me.
Praise be to Allaah.
It is permissible for a traveller to break the fast in
Ramadaan, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“So whoever of you sights (the crescent on the first night
of) the month (of Ramadan i.e. is present at his home), he must observe Sawm
(fasts) that month, and whoever is ill or on a journey, the same number [of
days which one did not observe Sawm (fasts) must be made up] from other
days. Allaah intends for you ease, and He does not want to make things
difficult for you”
It makes no difference whether the travel is difficult or
But is it better for him to fast or not to fast?
The answer is that it is better for him to fast, unless he
experiences difficulty in which case it is better for him not to fast.
This is discussed in more detail in the answers to questions
no. 65629 and
It is better for you to go back to your family and stay with
them in order to help your wife with the housework and help her to do acts
of worship and to benefit from the last ten days. Your staying with your
family to encourage them to worship is better than your observing i’tikaaf
on your own and depriving them of that help because of your being far away
from them. ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) told us about what the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to do during
the last ten days, which included waking up his family – i.e., so that they
could worship, pray and say du’aa’. The Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) did not observe i’tikaaf and leave his family with no
help or care. It is proven that Safiyyah (may Allaah be pleased with her)
visited him when he was in i’tikaaf and it is proven that they observed
i’tikaaf with him. I’tikaaf is a private act of worship that does not
benefit anyone else. Your staying with your family and encouraging them to
worship and treating them kindly is an action that benefits others and you
will not be deprived of the reward for their worship and you will not
deprive yourself of worship, because you can accompany your family to qiyaam
al-layl (night prayers) in a mosque, and you can wake them up at the end of
the night to say du’aa’ and read Qur’aan. This is something good that will
include you and your family. So we advise you to go back to your family and
stay with them during the last ten days, and encourage them to worship
Allaah. If you think that your family are doing well, and that they are
performing acts of worship regularly, then you can observe i’tikaaf on some
nights in your local mosque, so you can combine different kinds of worship
and attain a great reward in sha Allaah. We ask Allaah to help you to do
that which He loves and which pleases Him, and to accept the good deeds from
you and your family.
And Allaah knows best.