I am 24 years old and I got married a year ago. My marriage lasted only 6 months, after which my wife’s family accused me of being mentally ill. I proved that this was not the case with the help of a government psychiatrist. This is happening to me because my wife’s family is accusing me and she is agreeing with them, may Allaah forgive her. What should I do? Should I take another wife? Please note that the problem with my wife has been referred to the court and divorce proceedings are under way. If I get married [to a second wife] now, will there be any sin on me?.
Proof that a person is in good mental health and treats
others well does not require the testimony of a doctor. What matters is what
people see of a man, not the papers he produces.
Hence if the accusations of your wife’s family are based on
things that they have seen you do or words that they have heard you speak,
then they may have a reason. You have to sort yourself out and mend your
ways so that there will be nothing for others to judge you by.
If what they said about you has no real basis, rather it is
false and sinful testimony, then we think that you should advise them and
explain to them that their false accusation against you is sinful, and tell
them how that has caused division between you and your wife. If they recant,
then all well and good, otherwise you should shun them, and not let them
visit you or let your wife visit them, lest they turn her against you.
With regard to your intention of taking a second wife, what
we advise you is to wait and to examine the real motive for that, because
often in such cases the decision is based on the desire for revenge against
the first wife and her family because of the trouble they caused, and
usually when a man marries with this attitude it leads to trouble for the
second wife too, if the husband has not set things straight with his first
wife and her family.
If you have not set things straight between you and your wife
and her family, we think that if you want to take a second wife, you should
let the first wife go and divorce her, or you can keep the first wife if you
intend to keep both wives if Allaah guides her (the first wife). We also
advise you to have a good intention and try to do the right thing, for
Allaah says concerning spouses between whom there are difficulties
(interpretation of the meaning):
“if they both wish for peace, Allaah will cause their
reconciliation. Indeed Allaah is Ever All‑Knower, Well‑Acquainted with all
We advise you to fear
Allaah with regard to every step you take and not to let this problem cause
you to treat her unjustly or to keep reminding her of mistakes that she made
but that she has apologized for.
We ask Allaah to set your affairs straight and to make it easy for both of you to do the right thing. And Allaah is the Source of strength.